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Definition of ‘Sir’

‘used as a formal and polite way of speaking to a man, especially one who you are providing a service to or who is in a position of authority’

Cambridge Dictionary

‘Sir’ is used in D/s and BDSM lifestyles in reference to the power exchange, which is earned between the Dominant and His submissive when she acknowledges Him as her Dominant and relinquishes her ‘control’, safe in trust and respect that has grown between them

Not only is ‘Sir’ a term of respect, but also an affirmation that both Dominant and submissive have reached a deeper level of trust and is a declaration of a mutual decision and understanding. It shows outsiders that the Dominant is proud to be Himself as well as His submissive. Honoured to be called ‘Sir’ and have a submissive who He can share with and claim His own.

‘Sir’ is an honorific title. Both a word and expression with connotations conveying esteem or respect. An invisible protocol, yet ‘High Protocol’ in D/s and BDSM circles.

It works in a similar way to my wearing Sir’s Collar. An outward sign that I am His chosen submissive and I have earnt my position in Sir’s life. Calling Sir, Sir, shows both my appreciation and respect of His standing in my own life whilst maintaining humility and servitude, whilst showing others I have chosen Him as my Dominant.

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